This simple tweak to the way you write emails might change your entire day
How many emails do you write in the average day? I just did a quick count and yesterday alone it was 64! Many of the messages I write are business emails and don’t have a salutation or valediction,...
View ArticleThe world needs your kindness
Even as a mother protects with her life Her child, her only child, So with a boundless heart Should one cherish all living beings, Radiating kindness over the entire world. –The Buddha Just as a child...
View ArticlePracticing in balance
There’s an unfortunate tendency these days to see mindfulness as being the only quality we need to develop in meditation, and that everything else follows automatically. But that’s not how practice...
View ArticleSeven tips for people who struggle with lovingkindness practice
In the tradition I practice in, lovingkindness (metta bhavana) and mindfulness meditation are considered equally important, and yet my own informal surveys suggest that about a third of long-term...
View ArticleLove isn’t what you look for; it’s how you look
In one of my early experiences of lovingkindness meditation (metta bhavana), a teacher told me to look for feelings of love in my heart, and then to spread that love to other people. I duly searched...
View ArticleFrom fear and denial to love and acceptance
In the opening words to his book “The Road Less Traveled,” the late psychiatrist M. Scott Peck says: Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because...
View ArticleThe thing you may sometimes confuse with true kindness
Someone recently wrote to me sharing his reservations about the use of the word “love” to translate metta. Metta is a Buddhist word that is most often translated as “lovingkindness.” I confess I used...
View ArticleMudita is not “sympathetic joy”
This is an extract from the introduction to my current course on Mudita, which is part of a longer series of teachings on the brahma-viharas — also known as the “immeasurables.” The third of the...
View Article12 Ways to respond to unkindness with kindness
I came across this on Mastodon (the BEST social media platform), shared by user Vee, and thought it was really useful. I haven’t been able to find out for sure where it’s from, but it seems to be from...
View ArticlePublication Day! The Heart’s Awakening
It’s always an interesting day when one of your books is published. It’s exciting. But you’re sending your inmost thoughts out into the world for other people to read and perhaps judge, and so...
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